Good Intentions – Unanticipated Results

Wedding magazines and websites are filled with “tips and trends”. These set your imagination soaring – but may result in sore memories. Creative writers aren’t experienced officiants. They aim to be daring. What they see as possible (and may even have worked in one particular circumstance) isn’t accompanied by cautionary advice. When a bride follows… Read more »

Being We is Me at my Best

Marry for love. What you get from loving the person you marry is: loving the person you marry! Loving is the limitless experience of giving your best to another – and becoming better by giving your best. Marry because “we” is better than “me.” Being “we” is to live so intensely that giving is never… Read more »

iPod Wedding ???

Lowen Liu entered the debate about recorded wedding music last month. But she wasn’t advocating for live music or a DJ. After a few sad tales about each, Lowen comes out strongly for an iPod wedding. After all, she argues, who can set your wedding playlist better than you and yours? Lowen’s idea may sound… Read more »

Real Men in Underwear

You’ve seen the Dove campaign featuring “real” women – ostensibly designed to encourage realistic expectations about women’s bodies. Could something similar be aimed at men’s bodies (or at teasing hubby-to-be)? Maybe so. A British newspaper asked four men to imitate underwear ads by Cristiano Ronaldo and David Beckham. Results can be seen here. Wince or… Read more »

Naturally and Totally Unscripted

Last week’s wedding was a blast. It was one of those where I just had to let happen what was happening. I make a deliberate effort to keep ceremonies focused on the bride and groom and to adjust, slowing down or speeding up or adlibbing my words to fit the genuine spontaneity of their emotions…. Read more »

Life Isn’t a Rehearsal

Following up on Kinsman’s article, “Don’t waste money on your wedding,” I recommend another in New York Magazine: “What They Would Have Done Differently”. One hundred recent brides looked back on the best and worst of their wedding. 84% did not use a wedding planner. 73% (of those who paid for their own wedding) paid… Read more »

More aah… less meh

Kat Kinsman, CNN, wrote a great article last September called “Don’t waste money on your wedding!” It’s still worth reading. Once-in-a-lifetime festivities easily stir us into a frenzy because we can always imagine more ways of celebrating (thanks! Pinterest). And people suggest great (usually expensive or time-consuming) ideas: isn’t it easy to be enthusiastic when… Read more »

So Very Vegas!

Back on the ground! The airline used a small jet, reminding me of private and commuter planes. It had overhead bins but these, in their words, were “for nothing bigger than a shoebox”. Nevertheless we’re safely back in this oh-so-Vegas place. I remember when my sister lived here and I would pass through monthly between… Read more »

Wedding at the Winery

This week’s wedding brought me special joy. The wedding couple was fantastic, plus my daughter was the Matron of Honor and my Son-in-Law such an important part of the festivities. The bride, calm and deliberate throughout the planning, bubbled over during her vows and throughout the reception. One custom suggestion I had given the bride… Read more »

Hanging By A Thread

A lot has been said about Megan Dalla-Camina’s book “Getting Real About Having It All” released last year in Australia and now here. She surveyed 1,000 American women professionals about their well-being and reports a great deal of dissatisfaction. Gena Kaufman points out in Glamor that Dalla-Camina researched Australian men and found their responses nearly… Read more »