…Please help me with phonetic spellings (pronunciations) of names - and the way you each want to be addressed during the ceremony.

…Different elements of your wedding can be arranged in almost any order.  Likewise, most are optional.  Common sense and personal preference should prevail.

…I won’t use the formerly traditional question: “If anyone knows any reason why this couple should not be joined together in marriage, let him speak now or forever hold his peace.” 

…If you desire religious or spiritual elements, or traditions with religious implications, I need to discuss these with you. Please be sure that you and I agree well in advance of your wedding. 

…If you are planning a Renewal of Vows, Fiftieth Anniversary, or other ceremony instead of a licensed wedding, I’ll happily suggest features appropriate to such an occasion.

…I don’t read from a text.  Therefore I reserve the right to be a bit extemporaneous in the final result.  I’ll maintain casual elegance and always be personable. 

…Brides - practice lifting floor length gowns from your feet so that this can be done comfortably when using stairs and when turning.

…Walk slowly and naturally.  Relax, stay loose, be reasonably flexible.  Allow your focus to be upon your feelings and on one another.   Be yourselves first.  Everything else follows.