I’m the pastor of a Christian, Protestant church. My beliefs are evident. I’ll gladly discuss these if you ask. For couples getting married in the church I maintain clear policies, including premarital classes. But couples requesting my services through this website are not being married in the church.
I am respectful to everyone. I’m interested in your convictions. We can discuss our similarities as well as our differences. We may find these intriguing, enriching. But everything here revolves around putting together a wedding ceremony that you’ll remember with pride. Though I may occasionally be limited by matters of conscience and my oath of ordination, I am confident we’ll share common goals regarding your wedding day.
Listen appreciatively as family and friends describe the “perfect wedding”, but politely maintain that this is your wedding, planned your way. And, grooms, it’s generally best to say “yes, dear” to your bride. She probably has more expectations and will almost certainly have more memories of the ceremony. You may share mutual responsibility and decision making in just about everything else – but the wedding day is uniquely her’s. Give her your gift of agreement.
Typically (though not always) men experience their most inexplicable emotions leading up to the proposal. After it has been accepted, they are anxious to complete the necessities and get on with life together. But women often experience these same emotions and more leading up to the wedding.
Sometimes seemingly small decisions will have great significance – even when it can’t be explained why these are so difficult and important. Remember Sir, if you encounter such turbulence: say “yes, dear” and don’t make the situation worse. Be your bride’s resource and always her encourager!